M Marzuki Mohamed
It’s Been A Week And I Am Going Crazy!
Updated: Mar 26, 2020
How are you taking the #stayathome #quarantine order? Are you doing just fine or is it driving you nuts already? Whilst some have accepted this very happily and comfortably, others find this constraining, bothersome and even lonesome. If you are one of those who find this stay-at-home situation unbearable, fret not! There is something that you can do to overcome this. It’s called Meta-Programs or your default way of thinking. Notice how some people don’t seem to mind wearing the same type of clothes every day? Yet others need to dress differently every day? It is more than just preferences; it’s the default way of thinking that is driving that behaviour. When you do not realise that your way of thinking is not useful for the situation, that’s when you encounter difficulty. Here are 3 ways of thinking, if they come together for you, will create living hell in this situation that we are in and how you can overcome this. * Mismatching or Searching for Difference * Non-Conforming * Extroversion
Mismatching or Searching for Difference - If you have trained your mind to look for differences, then staying home day after day easily makes you feel bored. How you may overcome this is for you to remember or imagine a favourite thing or activity (coffee, chocolate or watching your favourite TV show). As you remember or imagine that, feel that feeling as you do that. Then, as you imagine the daily routine that you will do in the days to come, imagine doing those with this feeling that you feel when you are doing or having your favourite thing. Rehearse that in your mind as many times as you like until you feel comfortable. You are re-training your mind and body to this new experience. Non-Conforming - If you have programmed yourself to go against the grain of convention, attempting to conform to the social restrictions may cause you to feel constrained and forced. What you can do about this is remember or imagine a situation when you conformed to a certain manner, such as taking your driving test, you succeeded! Feel the feeling and imagine conforming to this social restriction with this way of thinking and feeling. Rehearse that until you feel comfortable. Extroversion - If you enjoy the company of others as a way of relaxing and rejuvenating, to be limited with only a few or just by yourself will be agony and a drain on your energy. First, adjust your way of thinking towards introversion by remembering or imagining a time that you feel exhilarated and rejuvenated when you were just by yourself; it could be a moment between you and the setting/rising sun or you and the bike/car as you dance through the country lane. Feel that feeling and imagine going through the days ahead with that way of thinking and feeling. Rehearse until you get it just right for you. Secondly, make sure that you video-call several different people every day. We must maintain social distance and personal hygiene for us to keep ourselves and the people whom we love safe. I hope that these ideas work for you and I’d be pleased if you are willing to comment about your experiences here. I look forward to hearing from you!